Wealth and children are the adornment of the life of this world. But the good righteous deeds (five compulsory prayers, deeds of Allah’s obedience, good and nice talk, remembrance of Allah with glorification, praises and thanks, etc.), that last, are better with your Lord for rewards and better in respect of hope. (Al-Kahf 18:46)
This beautiful verse reminds us that it is better for us to focus on ourselves first before getting involve in any ‘ties’. I’m in no position to talk about marriage but as a muslim we ought to please Allah first before committing to someone else. How is it possible for one to please the creation when He or she abandons the Creator, the One who provides us with wealth and children? How is it that we feel at ease for having blessings after blessings, but at the same time displeasing Allah? And despite all the blessings He gave, “Which of the favors of your Lord will you deny?”
Reminder to myself first, a lot of times we get carried away by the adornments of this world, a lot of times we fell into the whispers of Shaytan that keeps coming 24/7. and a lot of times we need a big tight slap to wake us up from this delusion. And for the billionth times we sin, Allah the Most Merciful is still there, waiting for His servants to ask for repentance and forgiveness. And the more we rely on Him, the more we obey Him, the more He gives. And that’s when the other half comes into the picture. To share the happiness and pain, to accept the flaws and complete one another, a companion to remind, a spouse for us to love for the sake of Allah.
Once we’ve build the fundamentals within ourselves, marriage will be easy, if Allah wills.
“Wicked women are for wicked men, and wicked men are for wicked women; and good women are for good men, and good men are for good women.”(An-Nisa 24:26)
The marriage will be easy and simple for those who fears Allah and adhere to the sunnah of the Messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam, for indeed the most blessed nikah are the ones with the least expenses. And nowadays people go to such extent, that marriage is nothing but a burden; on the event day and even after they’re halal. May Allah protect us from this. Look how traditions destroyed the sunnah. Look at how the malay-muslim community are bringing harm to themselves, with loud musics and karaokes to ‘pantang larang’ which involves shirk, to ‘kuda-kepang’ during weddings and saying ‘Alhamdulillah’ after all these. And even ‘cuci mata’ for those who attend the unsegregated wedding. Look at the amount of sins they have collected on the wedding day itself. Allah knows best.
Look at how important knowledge is. It either save us or destroy us. Build and strengthened our love for Allah first my brothers and sisters. Take Imam Ahmad rahimahullah as an example. He lived his wife for 40 years and they’ve never ever had any disputes. If one is angry then the other one is silent. And how it is reported that Umar ibn Al Khattab (radiallahu anhu), whom is known for his firmness and toughness, remain silent when his wife scolded him. Look at our Salaf! MasyaAllah, how blessed it is to be a Salafi, we don’t only take their Aqeedah and teachings but we take the good lessons from the life of the companions may Allah be pleased with them all.
Again, reminder to myself first. It’s not gonna be easy to fight my way through this especially living in Singapore, having to worry about my deen, National Service (burden) and finding job before settling down. It’s a scary thought but Allah’s aid is sought. One by one, obstacles after obstacles but I will get there insyaAllah. 3 to 4 more years. It takes time. But as for now, a big tight slap to wake me up and be firm upon the deen is what I need. May Allah makes it easy for me, my companions and other brothers here. May Allah grant us righteous spouse upon Salafiyyah. May Allah grant us pious offsprings who will make duá for us when we’re gone.
Siape taknak kahwin? *miang face* But sigh